Yes! I'm tired of having to apologize for being human, and rescheduling a call because I cry. Give me 2 seconds to cry and I'm fine. It sucks how little space is given for people crying which is a normal bodily function. Just like peeing.
I'm really excited for all of these topics coming up! Especially the seasonal affective disorder because I'm already feeling the SAD 😩
Hola! Most interesting...from someone who apologised to lamp-posts when bump into them when younger! My most truthful saying is: "My right eye smiles, while my left one weeps." I have to go out now but will write again. . . sincerely Joy Lennick
Thank you Joy! I’m so glad this resonated with you. I am such a klutz I’m always walking into walls and chair legs and table corners, etc. I too, used to apologize to them when I was a child. At one time they were alive…who’s to say they don’t have energy still in them???
I really do believe that my sensitivity is my super power. It's an amazing gift to be able to pick up on all the feelings in a room and to feel what's not being said. Of course, I didn't always see it that way. But now, I really see it as a super power!
As a very. . .ancient/young woman,*with a reasonable, long-term, memory, I am more than grateful for the lives my dear, CHARISMATIC! husband and I have lead.
Although quite shy when young, I was always drawn to people and loved chatting; most odd! I think it was curiosity more than anything, as I wanted to know what made other people tick! Of course, life, for some folk, is totally different for others and often remains a mystery...and that in itself is the draw!
In our long lives (93 *me and 97 he) we have had many adventures and met many fascinating people ,(fortunately not many nasty types. . .although there are some evil men 'at large' trying to mess up our wonderful planet).
We have been blessed with three, worthy, sons and I had loving parents (I'm really saddened by those who didn't!!)
My father drew beautiful calligraphy which I tried to emulate; and wrote many letters to newspapers. . .so it was no surprise when, later on, I was also drawn to words , art and music (inter-twinned in my head!)
Although I have written a Memoir, it took me a while to
get used to blowing my own trumpet. . .I have no illusions about myself and was down the line a bit when brains were handed out, but I do have some common sense, which is invaluable!
Although my 10th book remans unpublished, I have managed to have nine others in print. Two I re-wrote for a couple of adventurers' , and one with my husband on humour. I've also had many poems and short storied also published and you could call me 'eclectic,' (but not late for dinner!)
I hope I haven't bored you . . .and look forward to more words from you. Cheers.
Wow. Joy, it’s a pleasure to know you. Thank you for sharing your story here…such an honor to bring an elder into the fold…and a published author at that!
Have you discovered The 🧙🏼♂️Hobbit & 🦉Owl? It’s another publication I manage, with my very charismatic (and extremely introverted) husband. We are both 52, with birthdays 11 days apart…and survivors of prior-lives (aka divorce) that taught us (the hard way) how to love more fully. I think you and your husband might enjoy the Hobbit’s antics on there.
As a child (and often as an adult) I've been told off for crying, told I'm "turning on the waterworks" to get the sympathy vote and get out of trouble. In reality, I was trying NOT to cry, to "swallow down" my feelings. I now know, not only was I a highly sensitive child/ adult, I was also an autistic introvert experiencing overwhelm - I found out I was autistic at 58 yrs old (3 yrs ago), it explained so much about my life up to that point and beyond!
So ... no more apologising for who I am. I will treat others in the way I would like to be treated, but if others misunderstand my intentions (often wilfully) then that's on them not me. Now, if only I can stick to this and not apologise as a automatic response!
Thank you for your writing, these words of wisdom always seem to appear in my emails just when I need it the most!
Thank you Lesley. I love tht you enjoy my words of wisdom on the regular. And I’m so happy you can embrace your late in life diagnosis as a way to better understand yourself. Welcome to the world of NOT APOLOGIZING!
I apologise for crying all the time! And when I do, my husband always tell me that I don't need to say or be sorry for crying. It's left over from my childhood when I had to be sorry for everything all the time. But, actually thinking about it, last night I cried when watching a documentary that footage from the WW2 concentration camps and I didn't say sorry! 💙
That's a strong and powerful bit of writing Teri. I definitely relate to bits off personally and I relate to LOTS of it as a dad to 3 teen daughters. You are so right - there is this "sorry for crying" culture that is deeply unhealthy. Thanks for shining a light on this and bringing your resources to help people, into this little Substacky (very very wacky) world.
Yes! I'm tired of having to apologize for being human, and rescheduling a call because I cry. Give me 2 seconds to cry and I'm fine. It sucks how little space is given for people crying which is a normal bodily function. Just like peeing.
I'm really excited for all of these topics coming up! Especially the seasonal affective disorder because I'm already feeling the SAD 😩
SAD is my theme for November!
Perfect timing! I'm already feeling it in October 😆
Hola! Most interesting...from someone who apologised to lamp-posts when bump into them when younger! My most truthful saying is: "My right eye smiles, while my left one weeps." I have to go out now but will write again. . . sincerely Joy Lennick
Thank you Joy! I’m so glad this resonated with you. I am such a klutz I’m always walking into walls and chair legs and table corners, etc. I too, used to apologize to them when I was a child. At one time they were alive…who’s to say they don’t have energy still in them???
I really do believe that my sensitivity is my super power. It's an amazing gift to be able to pick up on all the feelings in a room and to feel what's not being said. Of course, I didn't always see it that way. But now, I really see it as a super power!
I knew you would know what this is all about. In our interactions here, I can see your aura well enough to know you are a sensitive soul at her best!
Hola Terri
As a very. . .ancient/young woman,*with a reasonable, long-term, memory, I am more than grateful for the lives my dear, CHARISMATIC! husband and I have lead.
Although quite shy when young, I was always drawn to people and loved chatting; most odd! I think it was curiosity more than anything, as I wanted to know what made other people tick! Of course, life, for some folk, is totally different for others and often remains a mystery...and that in itself is the draw!
In our long lives (93 *me and 97 he) we have had many adventures and met many fascinating people ,(fortunately not many nasty types. . .although there are some evil men 'at large' trying to mess up our wonderful planet).
We have been blessed with three, worthy, sons and I had loving parents (I'm really saddened by those who didn't!!)
My father drew beautiful calligraphy which I tried to emulate; and wrote many letters to newspapers. . .so it was no surprise when, later on, I was also drawn to words , art and music (inter-twinned in my head!)
Although I have written a Memoir, it took me a while to
get used to blowing my own trumpet. . .I have no illusions about myself and was down the line a bit when brains were handed out, but I do have some common sense, which is invaluable!
Although my 10th book remans unpublished, I have managed to have nine others in print. Two I re-wrote for a couple of adventurers' , and one with my husband on humour. I've also had many poems and short storied also published and you could call me 'eclectic,' (but not late for dinner!)
I hope I haven't bored you . . .and look forward to more words from you. Cheers.
Joy Lennick
Wow. Joy, it’s a pleasure to know you. Thank you for sharing your story here…such an honor to bring an elder into the fold…and a published author at that!
Have you discovered The 🧙🏼♂️Hobbit & 🦉Owl? It’s another publication I manage, with my very charismatic (and extremely introverted) husband. We are both 52, with birthdays 11 days apart…and survivors of prior-lives (aka divorce) that taught us (the hard way) how to love more fully. I think you and your husband might enjoy the Hobbit’s antics on there.
https://hobbitandowl.substack.com/
As a child (and often as an adult) I've been told off for crying, told I'm "turning on the waterworks" to get the sympathy vote and get out of trouble. In reality, I was trying NOT to cry, to "swallow down" my feelings. I now know, not only was I a highly sensitive child/ adult, I was also an autistic introvert experiencing overwhelm - I found out I was autistic at 58 yrs old (3 yrs ago), it explained so much about my life up to that point and beyond!
So ... no more apologising for who I am. I will treat others in the way I would like to be treated, but if others misunderstand my intentions (often wilfully) then that's on them not me. Now, if only I can stick to this and not apologise as a automatic response!
Thank you for your writing, these words of wisdom always seem to appear in my emails just when I need it the most!
Thank you Lesley. I love tht you enjoy my words of wisdom on the regular. And I’m so happy you can embrace your late in life diagnosis as a way to better understand yourself. Welcome to the world of NOT APOLOGIZING!
Beautiful Teri. Important!!! Sensitivity is a portal to a full life. And it reminds us of the web in which we live, where all beings matter. <3
yes, all things matter.
I apologise for crying all the time! And when I do, my husband always tell me that I don't need to say or be sorry for crying. It's left over from my childhood when I had to be sorry for everything all the time. But, actually thinking about it, last night I cried when watching a documentary that footage from the WW2 concentration camps and I didn't say sorry! 💙
I hope this little story helps you to stop apologizing for crying and to embrace your tears. They are so sacred!
I cried yesterday and I didn't say sorry! 🥳
I will be very mindful of it from now on and stop myself from doing it! 💙
That's a strong and powerful bit of writing Teri. I definitely relate to bits off personally and I relate to LOTS of it as a dad to 3 teen daughters. You are so right - there is this "sorry for crying" culture that is deeply unhealthy. Thanks for shining a light on this and bringing your resources to help people, into this little Substacky (very very wacky) world.
Thanks @JFT Beach 🇬🇧 🏊 🧘♂️ - I hope your teen daughters can learn to love their tears instead of apologize for them!
They're getting there…